Love Machine
Post date: 2008-04-19
Let's say you're a great talker. Sexy and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Great kisser. Unpredictable and you're a 'rare to find'. Your love is one of a kind, silly, fun and sweet. You have your own unique sexiness and you're the most caring person every single girl wants to meet. And last but not the least, you're amazing in bed.
Did I say AMAZING IN BED???
Frankly, if you're doubting yourself then you have a big problem. Whether you're actually bad in bed or just low on confidence, I can't say. This is up to you to find out, while I'm just doing some explaining for your convenience. The root of the problem lies in the very simple fact that it takes a lot of experience to know if a woman has an orgasm or if she's faking it. And even experienced men can't always tell if the woman's faking it or not. Bottom line: you can never be sure that your performance is top quality.
And thatís even before we take into account slip ups and "that time" when you were too tired or too stressed or you had too much to drink and, well, you know what happened. Unfortunately, these things can erode a man's peace of mind and confidence and make him suspicious of his lady's behavior, even if he shouldn't be. Some times are good and some times are bad and there's little you can do about it. Loosing confidence in yourself and throwing good self-esteem out the window just because of a slip up is not the way to deal with this.
Okay then, put all the blame to stress. Stress is one of the great "sex killers" nowadays because no man can truly enjoy himself if he keeps thinking about deadlines, bosses, nasty co-workers or credit card debt. We do live in a stressful world and the modern fashion that surrounds a man with dozens of machines in order to allow him to work harder and harder everyday is doing it's best to ruin sex around the world. I'm sure that many men who have to resort to Viagra would do better to try and relax a little and take things easier.
Aside from its direct impact on performance, stress has some side effects that are just as bad. Some men take to drinking because of it. It always starts small, since going out with the guys is fun and, hey, we're just having a few beers. Before you know it the number of beers grows and the "evenings out" turn into "nights out". Small wonder that a stressed man with a significant quantity of alcohol in his body is not performing in bed as usual. Men need to recognize the early signs of stress in their lives and take control of the situation.
Remember that once you've started asking questions about your performance you could easily slide into a pattern where low self esteem triggers a failure, which, in turn, sends self esteem even lower and so on. Try to be a bit more positive about things. You were probably tired or stressed. Or you may need to learn some new positions and break the bedroom routine a bit. |
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