Blog about Dating Tips

We all have tried to get girls that seem impossible to reach. People will tell you all the time "oh you can never get her", why? Why can't you have her? Here are some simple rules and guidelines to go by to help you out. Here is a guide to get any girl you want! Make it happen, nothing is easy out there but if you do things the right way she will be all yours. Be confident with who you are and who you want to be. A woman loves nothing more then to be hanging around with a man who's confident. Know that you're smart, know that you're handsome and a great fun person for anyone to be with. Don't be conceited though.

1. One of a kind - Women love to be pampered and we love to be adored. We love to have a man know what our favorite flower is. Ask and we will tell, it's that simple. Me personally I hate red roses. men give them to women all the time because they think "well everyone else like them so will she" WRONG! Each one of us is a different person. She might love roses but if you're trying to get me get me something that's different. Exotic is always good. Something you don't see around a lot. Just a simple flower can make a huge difference in the way she looks at you. Make a night she'll never forget. Being as polite as possible but letting her know that you have thought about the date and you think she will enjoy what you have planed for the two of you. A woman likes a man who's in control. Don't get me wrong we like to have some control too but there's just something about a man that knows what he wants. It's very sexy.

2.Quiet time
- It's very hard to get to know someone when you're at a loud party. After you have been eying the girl you want for a little while to see if she's taken or if she's with someone etc... ask her if she's like to have a drink with you. Pick a quiet spot and get to know her and let her know you. If all goes well with that conversation ask her if she'd like to go out for coffee or a quiet walk just outside. You don't want her thinking that you're trying to rape her or anything so if she says no relax and take it slow. Make her feel safe. Whatever you do give her your undivided attention. Women crave this!

3. brawn and brains
-Let her know that you're into her. Make comments on how smart she is. Women love that. There's no better feeling then when someone just out of nowhere and compliments you. Smile at her and say "you're amazing, you're intelligent and beautiful". Don't always talk about how pretty she is, that can get dull after a while. We want to knwo that you're not only thinking about our physical attributes. We like you to think of us as equals.

4.I need a say
-Opinions, we all have them and we all voice them. Be open mined when listening to her's. Ask her how she feels about things. About life,death,love anything to see how she feels about certain topics. Get to know her mentally the rest will all come in time and you'll both be more in tuned with each other.

5.Make an impact
-Woo her, meaning the little things make a big difference. Men today don't open doors for women and women love that. Do the little things that make a difference. Also do things like when ordering desert only order one not two. This way you can share it. Feed her and let her feed you, make a little game out of it. Write a little note and have it sent to her office " looking forward to tonight". We all know that women pick at the little things because most men don't bother anymore. Make an impression and do them.

6. Mood of romance
-Create an atmosphere of comfort. Appeal to all her senses. Play slow romantic music. Get her favorite beverage (there's nothing worse then drinking something you don't like or drinking it because you have no choice). Talk with respect and listen to her, treat her like a queen. Wherever you bring her make sure it's clean and relaxing. When you get her to this point you can relax too.

7. -Foreplay isn't oral sex and kissing. Foreplay is anything to set the mood. Example: send her flowers at work for no reason at all. Let her know you're thinking about her. When the night arrives (the date) take her by the hand a give a soft gentle kiss. Don't be too pushy with her you might scare her. Take things nice and slow, it will all happen when it's ready to happen.

8. Kids shall play
-Playtime is the best part of a date I would have to say. At home or out in public. Order one plate for the both of you, feed each other, tease one another, enjoy each other. This is the time when you let her know that you have a serious side but you also know when to hang up your tie. Don't be afraid to get a little dirty. Act as if you're all alone. Show her how playful you are, women love a man that loves playtime.

9.Forget about it
-Surprise! So you plan the whole date and it seems like she's not having much fun. Well forget about it! Let fate decide whats going to happen next. The whole point of this date is to allow the two of you to get to know each other and enjoy your time with each other. Make suggestion and ask her if there's anything that she'd like to do with you.It's better to change and redirect plans then one or both of you not having a good time.

10.For me?
-Women love unexpected gifts from a man. It makes them feel special. Give her something that's for her, not the last girl or whatever. She's different so treat her differently. Women don't like to be given the same flower or the same gift as the last girl. We want to be treated differently. Give her your gift when there's only one way she can show you her appreciation for her gift.

Recovery Tips:

*Ending relationships is hard. Be as nice and respectful as possible.

*If you think you might have a S.T.D (sexually transmitted disease) you might want to take a walk to your local sexual health clinic.

*I know it's hard and it really hurts when you break up, but that's life. We all move on to another. Ask yourself this "why did we break up"? When people break up it's usually a sign that something's not there anymore. If you were cheated on or she cheated on you, then whoever did it had no respect for the other. Find someone that you will respect.

*Lust is where you're attracted physically but not mentally. Love is where you love the person mentally, emotionally and physically. After you've have sex see if it's lust or love. Love after sex is still there you can feel it. Lust is there and then it's gone.

*Winning a woman's heart:make her feel like she's the only woman on the face of the earth.
*Take life a step at a time (day by day)

*First and foremost. Pick the perfect location. A little corner table, sitting beside each other. Candle lit, a nice bottle of wine. Soft romantic love songs. (Find out what her favorite songs are) Don't forget to bring her her favorite flower. Last but not least that special gift just for her.

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Guys: Body Language Basics For Seducing Women
By Tiffany Taylor

Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your communication comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE important to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you stand and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same successful techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.

Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.

Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out my site: guygetsgirl.com).

Body language basics:

1. Smile

You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile

2. Eye contact

As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.

3. Upright posture

Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms

You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.

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How to Seduce a Woman Using ‘Deflection Theory’ by Tiffany Taylor

There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!

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How to Attract A Woman: The Best Ways to Handle Physical Contact By Tiffany Taylor

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just “go for it” and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what’s the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don’t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a look.

1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women AND how men can use special psychological and social techniques to attract and seduce them – regardless of their looks, bank balance or the car they drive. Attract And Seduce Women Today

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How To Date Younger Women

By Dean Cortez

Let's be honest. What guy doesn't want to date sexy, fun, younger women?

Well here's the problem. Most guys reach a certain age and start to think that hot younger women are no longer an option. Many guys in their 30s have already convinced themselves that women who are 5 or 10 years younger are "out of reach."

When men mature into their 40s and 50s, this mentality becomes more common.

Of course they'd still love to date and sleep with hot young babes! But they limit their dating options to women closer to their own age--who often have more "baggage" than Paris Hilton coming home after an all-day shopping spree.

Let's face it. When you're dating women who are age 30 and up, these are often women who've been divorced...jaded towards men...or they're raising kids on their own, and looking for a new guy to help out with the bills.

Or, maybe she never got married and doesn't have kids yet...but if still she'll single after the age of 30, chances are good that she's formed a lot of negative beliefs about men and now she SCRUTINIZES every guy that comes into her life.

I chose not to play that game. I'm in my mid-30s and I'm having the best time of my life. I regularly date women in their early-mid 20s, and between all the great sex and good times that I'm having with them, I see no need whatsover to date women my own age.

(Yeah, I'm sure a lot of feminists will HOWL at what I just said...but it's the truth. And I know a lot of guys would do the same thing I'm doing, if they knew how to master the Younger Women game...)

Look. If you're in your 30s, 40s, or beyond, it's time to destroy the myth that you can only get women your own age. There are ways for you to use your maturity, sophistication, knowledge, and life experience as a huge tactical ADVANTAGE.

There are super-effective techniques and strategies for you to use the "age gap" as a massively ATTRACTIVE quality! You may not realize it, but you possess tools right now that younger women find extremely appealing...and that younger guys DON'T have.

But 95% of men go through life NEVER understanding how to tap into these tools and use them. They think that only rich guys and celebrities can have young "trophy" women...the kinds of girls that get stared at by men everywhere they go. (And that married guys lust over!)

Well, this simply is not true. And it's why I teamed up with Ron Louis, a true legend in the seduction community, who co-authored the international best-selling book "How To Succeed With Women."

Since 1997, Ron has coached thousands of men at his seminars around the world. He noticed that many of his students had hang-ups about being "too old" or "not cool enough" to relate to the young women they were most attracted to.

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These are just a few of the major names that contributed to this program. We tapped their brains and got them to reveal their own methods and secrets for approaching, talking to, and closing the deal with gorgeous younger women.

They also explained how they dress...the locations they go to, to find these women (you would never suspect some of these places!)...how they handle first dates...the keys to achieving a super-social lifestyle...and the mental attitude and specific techniques they use to meet fun, sexy younger women on a constant basis.

Personally, my OWN game went to a new level by listening to the hours of interviews that are included in this program...

Some of my favorite techniques came from Zan Perrion, another industry legend who was a mentor to Neil Strauss (author of "The Game") and Mystery, two of the most well-known pickup artists in the world.

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With these tactics, it's easy to "turn the tables" and be in control of every conversation you have with younger women. You'll actually have girls COMPETING for your attention and trying to get YOU more interested in them!

And if your goal is to find a beautiful younger girlfriend, you'll learn how to stay IN CONTROL of the relationship so that she always cherishes and respects you. Leaving you for another guy will NOT be an option in her mind.

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Here's to dating, and feeling, younger!

Your Wingman,

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Personality and the Biggest Male Mistake with Women
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Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull? It's interesting, because it's rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it's what they're MISSING. Personality...
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Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull?
It's interesting, because it's rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it's what they're MISSING. A person lacks personality because they are like a song without any hook or catchy riff.

You gotta have personality if you're going to get a woman interested in you.

A woman has to feel that static crackle around you, that you're not like the rest of the chumps with "LOOKING FOR SEX" tattooed on their foreheads.

She wants to see some spark, some glimmer of magical presence that you carry.

A woman walks through life fairly bored with her relationship possibilities. I have a theory that most men don't really challenge them at all. For you to make an impression, you just have to offer her something she doesn't usually get from the salad bar.

Can you excite her? Can you demonstrate a man with qualities that separates him from that pack of wild hyenas?

To snap her out of her stupor, what would you be willing to do? What if I told you that you don't have to do much to wake her up? You don't have to juggle, or dance, or perform acrobatics.

You've just got to stand out from the rest of the guys out there. You've got to be willing to display some PERSONALITY.

What makes up "personality"?

Mystery - The self-control to keep certain secrets and avoid telling her everything about you.
Humor - Make her laugh
Confidence - The willingness to be independent and not needy of a woman
Originality - Thinking different than the crowd
Excitement and Positivity - The great attitude and energy of a person with a purpose
Hobbies and interests - OTHER than women. This is what it means to "get a life."
Conversational Ability - The ability to communicate with women on a level they can understand and get excited aboutThere are other, subtler traits that could be talked about in boring detail, but these are the important aspects of projecting a winning personality to women.

If I were to boil it down to just two of these, I'd say humor and conversational ability are the foundation, and the others just serve as polish to make you gleam in her eyes.

If you can make her laugh - a real laugh that says she finds you witty and amusing, without putting yourself down - you will get her to open the door of opportunity for you.

If you can talk to her about that and everything else in between, without making her feel like you're trying to get her into bed, that you appreciate her as unique and special, you'll get to step inside that door of opportunity.

PERSONALITY SABOTAGE

Would you like to know what you're doing that sabotages this along the way?

There's one thing you do that undermines all this effort to get her attracted with your witty conversation, and you have to get rid of it to succeed long term.

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ....
Are you ready for this?

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ....
I'm not sure I should tell you this, but you need to know. It's important ...

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ....
COMING ON TO A WOMAN TOO STRONG.

Now the funny part about me telling you that is that you can hear me tell you this, and you'll even nod your head and say, "Yeah, dude, I know..."

BUT YOU WON'T STOP DOING IT!

Why?

Why can't you stop yourself?

I got in a discussion with a female friend of mine the other day. She came in and told me that she was going to Boston and hoped things would go well on this business trip. She said she thought there was an 85% chance that she wouldn't get all stressed out. I asked her, "Well, what accounts for that other 15%?" She said, "Oh, that's stuff I can't control."

I waited for a beat, then I said, "How you feel and react is 100% under your control. It's whether you CHOOSE to or not. How you react is ALWAYS under your power. No one else makes you do anything."

She wanted to argue with me over whether her reaction was 100% under her "responsibility" rather than control, but I refused to back down. She was just trying to find a reason to excuse herself for not doing things she knew she needed to do. Responsibility is not the same as actually understanding that you are not under some other mystical power or influence. YOU are the one who does everything. By choice.

We could go into a whole circular debate over the nature of free will here, but I won't. You need to take both responsibility AND control of your actions. When you fail to do what you know you must do, there's a REASON. And until you find out what that REASON is, you'll probably never change your behavior.

So back to my original point - why do men come on strong to women?
(Since this is the one part of your personality that will sabotage all your work unless you can control it.)

It's because we're in a hurry. We lack the self-discipline to slow it down.

Men want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman. And then we want the space and relaxed distance.
Women want space and relaxed distance. THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.

Do you see how this ruins your work?

If you come on too strong, she backs off. If you come on slow and easy (which also demonstrates confidence and self-control) she'll go along with you.

Can you see what you're doing wrong and correct it, without having someone tell you to your face what you may be doing to put them off?

Can you let go of what other people think of you and act based on your internal compass instead of their judgments?

And then can you exercise the self control you need to in order to stop coming on too strong to her? She won't date you or sleep with you just because you push her hard enough. She'll do it because her attraction mechanism inside her is turned on by your personality, and then feeling that she has the space to reach forward and act on her desires with you. She cannot do this if you're all over her like white on rice.

Learn the reasons why you can't stop yourself from doing what you know you should do. Learn what these mechanisms are inside you that keep you from doing the things you know you must, and then change them.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!" and "Alpha Immersion".