1. One of a kind - Women love to be pampered and we love to be adored. We love to have a man know what our favorite flower is. Ask and we will tell, it's that simple. Me personally I hate red roses. men give them to women all the time because they think "well everyone else like them so will she" WRONG! Each one of us is a different person. She might love roses but if you're trying to get me get me something that's different. Exotic is always good. Something you don't see around a lot. Just a simple flower can make a huge difference in the way she looks at you. Make a night she'll never forget. Being as polite as possible but letting her know that you have thought about the date and you think she will enjoy what you have planed for the two of you. A woman likes a man who's in control. Don't get me wrong we like to have some control too but there's just something about a man that knows what he wants. It's very sexy.

2.Quiet time
- It's very hard to get to know someone when you're at a loud party. After you have been eying the girl you want for a little while to see if she's taken or if she's with someone etc... ask her if she's like to have a drink with you. Pick a quiet spot and get to know her and let her know you. If all goes well with that conversation ask her if she'd like to go out for coffee or a quiet walk just outside. You don't want her thinking that you're trying to rape her or anything so if she says no relax and take it slow. Make her feel safe. Whatever you do give her your undivided attention. Women crave this!

3. brawn and brains
-Let her know that you're into her. Make comments on how smart she is. Women love that. There's no better feeling then when someone just out of nowhere and compliments you. Smile at her and say "you're amazing, you're intelligent and beautiful". Don't always talk about how pretty she is, that can get dull after a while. We want to knwo that you're not only thinking about our physical attributes. We like you to think of us as equals.

4.I need a say
-Opinions, we all have them and we all voice them. Be open mined when listening to her's. Ask her how she feels about things. About life,death,love anything to see how she feels about certain topics. Get to know her mentally the rest will all come in time and you'll both be more in tuned with each other.

5.Make an impact
-Woo her, meaning the little things make a big difference. Men today don't open doors for women and women love that. Do the little things that make a difference. Also do things like when ordering desert only order one not two. This way you can share it. Feed her and let her feed you, make a little game out of it. Write a little note and have it sent to her office " looking forward to tonight". We all know that women pick at the little things because most men don't bother anymore. Make an impression and do them.

6. Mood of romance
-Create an atmosphere of comfort. Appeal to all her senses. Play slow romantic music. Get her favorite beverage (there's nothing worse then drinking something you don't like or drinking it because you have no choice). Talk with respect and listen to her, treat her like a queen. Wherever you bring her make sure it's clean and relaxing. When you get her to this point you can relax too.

7. -Foreplay isn't oral sex and kissing. Foreplay is anything to set the mood. Example: send her flowers at work for no reason at all. Let her know you're thinking about her. When the night arrives (the date) take her by the hand a give a soft gentle kiss. Don't be too pushy with her you might scare her. Take things nice and slow, it will all happen when it's ready to happen.

8. Kids shall play
-Playtime is the best part of a date I would have to say. At home or out in public. Order one plate for the both of you, feed each other, tease one another, enjoy each other. This is the time when you let her know that you have a serious side but you also know when to hang up your tie. Don't be afraid to get a little dirty. Act as if you're all alone. Show her how playful you are, women love a man that loves playtime.

9.Forget about it
-Surprise! So you plan the whole date and it seems like she's not having much fun. Well forget about it! Let fate decide whats going to happen next. The whole point of this date is to allow the two of you to get to know each other and enjoy your time with each other. Make suggestion and ask her if there's anything that she'd like to do with you.It's better to change and redirect plans then one or both of you not having a good time.

10.For me?
-Women love unexpected gifts from a man. It makes them feel special. Give her something that's for her, not the last girl or whatever. She's different so treat her differently. Women don't like to be given the same flower or the same gift as the last girl. We want to be treated differently. Give her your gift when there's only one way she can show you her appreciation for her gift.

Recovery Tips:

*Ending relationships is hard. Be as nice and respectful as possible.

*If you think you might have a S.T.D (sexually transmitted disease) you might want to take a walk to your local sexual health clinic.

*I know it's hard and it really hurts when you break up, but that's life. We all move on to another. Ask yourself this "why did we break up"? When people break up it's usually a sign that something's not there anymore. If you were cheated on or she cheated on you, then whoever did it had no respect for the other. Find someone that you will respect.

*Lust is where you're attracted physically but not mentally. Love is where you love the person mentally, emotionally and physically. After you've have sex see if it's lust or love. Love after sex is still there you can feel it. Lust is there and then it's gone.

*Winning a woman's heart:make her feel like she's the only woman on the face of the earth.
*Take life a step at a time (day by day)

*First and foremost. Pick the perfect location. A little corner table, sitting beside each other. Candle lit, a nice bottle of wine. Soft romantic love songs. (Find out what her favorite songs are) Don't forget to bring her her favorite flower. Last but not least that special gift just for her.

Guys: Body Language Basics For Seducing Women
By Tiffany Taylor

Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your communication comes from your body language – what you DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.

What does this mean to you?

It is MORE important to pay careful attention to HOW you say things, and HOW you stand and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least initially).

You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you used those same successful techniques in the real world and lacked obvious confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.

Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about YOUR body language.

Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond the scope of this article (if you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out my site: guygetsgirl.com).

Body language basics:

1. Smile

You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t make it a cheesy, fake smile

2. Eye contact

As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest – she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!

When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty successful.

Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of conversation time. Be natural.

3. Upright posture

Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.

Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.

4. Gesticulate with open palms

You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it was almost certainly copied from this course).

I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!

Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself (for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.

This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile to work effectively.

Those are the basics of body language, if you'd like to learn more visit Tiffany Taylor's site by clicking here

How to Seduce a Woman Using ‘Deflection Theory’ by Tiffany Taylor

There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

1. Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

2. Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

3. When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!

Want more information from Tiffany Taylor about how to attract and seduce women with the GuyGetsGirl system?

How to Attract A Woman: The Best Ways to Handle Physical Contact By Tiffany Taylor

Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing a basic level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you can move in for the kill by kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee, you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your final goal of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how can a guy develop mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?

Often men just “go for it” and consequently end up making the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don’t want to risk putting a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in the girl, or that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so what’s the solution to this awkward problem?

Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and therefore don’t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a look.

1. Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s simply not true. To form a positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something. The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.

2. Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually felt sexual attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.

3. Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date, but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.

Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide that reveals for the first time what goes on the minds of women AND how men can use special psychological and social techniques to attract and seduce them – regardless of their looks, bank balance or the car they drive. Attract And Seduce Women Today

How To Date Younger Women

By Dean Cortez

Let's be honest. What guy doesn't want to date sexy, fun, younger women?

Well here's the problem. Most guys reach a certain age and start to think that hot younger women are no longer an option. Many guys in their 30s have already convinced themselves that women who are 5 or 10 years younger are "out of reach."

When men mature into their 40s and 50s, this mentality becomes more common.

Of course they'd still love to date and sleep with hot young babes! But they limit their dating options to women closer to their own age--who often have more "baggage" than Paris Hilton coming home after an all-day shopping spree.

Let's face it. When you're dating women who are age 30 and up, these are often women who've been divorced...jaded towards men...or they're raising kids on their own, and looking for a new guy to help out with the bills.

Or, maybe she never got married and doesn't have kids yet...but if still she'll single after the age of 30, chances are good that she's formed a lot of negative beliefs about men and now she SCRUTINIZES every guy that comes into her life.

I chose not to play that game. I'm in my mid-30s and I'm having the best time of my life. I regularly date women in their early-mid 20s, and between all the great sex and good times that I'm having with them, I see no need whatsover to date women my own age.

(Yeah, I'm sure a lot of feminists will HOWL at what I just said...but it's the truth. And I know a lot of guys would do the same thing I'm doing, if they knew how to master the Younger Women game...)

Look. If you're in your 30s, 40s, or beyond, it's time to destroy the myth that you can only get women your own age. There are ways for you to use your maturity, sophistication, knowledge, and life experience as a huge tactical ADVANTAGE.

There are super-effective techniques and strategies for you to use the "age gap" as a massively ATTRACTIVE quality! You may not realize it, but you possess tools right now that younger women find extremely appealing...and that younger guys DON'T have.

But 95% of men go through life NEVER understanding how to tap into these tools and use them. They think that only rich guys and celebrities can have young "trophy" women...the kinds of girls that get stared at by men everywhere they go. (And that married guys lust over!)

Well, this simply is not true. And it's why I teamed up with Ron Louis, a true legend in the seduction community, who co-authored the international best-selling book "How To Succeed With Women."

Since 1997, Ron has coached thousands of men at his seminars around the world. He noticed that many of his students had hang-ups about being "too old" or "not cool enough" to relate to the young women they were most attracted to.

But that was just the beginning of our project. In order to create the ultimate program on the subject of Dating Younger Women, we reached out to more than a dozen of the top dating & seduction experts in the world.

Never before has such an All-Star team of contributors come together for a single program. These guys are incredibly busy, writing best-selling books and leading seminars, so it took more than six months just to schedule time with all of them...but the results speak for themselves.

Our experts include Savoy (former president of the Mystery Method corporation, now the CEO of Love Systems)...Mehow...David Wygant...Sean Stephenson...Scot McKay...Dr. Paul...Brent Smith (mentor to David DeAngelo)...the amazing Carlos Xuma, who has shown thousands of men how to tap into their inner Alpha Male and turbo-charge their skills and confidence...and Nico Simon Princely, a leading authority on how to boost your sexual performance and give women explosive pleasure.

These are just a few of the major names that contributed to this program. We tapped their brains and got them to reveal their own methods and secrets for approaching, talking to, and closing the deal with gorgeous younger women.

They also explained how they dress...the locations they go to, to find these women (you would never suspect some of these places!)...how they handle first dates...the keys to achieving a super-social lifestyle...and the mental attitude and specific techniques they use to meet fun, sexy younger women on a constant basis.

Personally, my OWN game went to a new level by listening to the hours of interviews that are included in this program...

Some of my favorite techniques came from Zan Perrion, another industry legend who was a mentor to Neil Strauss (author of "The Game") and Mystery, two of the most well-known pickup artists in the world.

Zan, who is in his 40s and enjoys dating a variety of beautiful younger women, explained exactly how he makes his approach and DESTROYS the "age gap" with an incredibly clever, effective opener...

Once you've broken the ice, our experts explain how to manage conversations so that younger women will try to impress YOU and measure up to YOUR standards.

With these tactics, it's easy to "turn the tables" and be in control of every conversation you have with younger women. You'll actually have girls COMPETING for your attention and trying to get YOU more interested in them!

And if your goal is to find a beautiful younger girlfriend, you'll learn how to stay IN CONTROL of the relationship so that she always cherishes and respects you. Leaving you for another guy will NOT be an option in her mind.

If you've been learning some methods and techniques for improving your dating life, but you want SPECIFICS about how to make younger women feel powerfully attracted to you, this program is designed to put all of the pieces of the puzzle together.

In addition to more than ten hours of in-depth audio interviews, the program includes an incredible 240-page book that gives you a step-by-step blueprint for becoming massively attractive to younger women and elevating your lifestyle in every sense.

Even better, during this promotional period, we're giving away a bunch of excellent bonus products for free - additional books and audio interviews that cover attraction & seduction from every angle.

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Here's to dating, and feeling, younger!

Your Wingman,

Dean Cortez

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Personality and the Biggest Male Mistake with Women
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Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull? It's interesting, because it's rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it's what they're MISSING. Personality...
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Have you ever met someone that you felt was just really boring? Bland? Dull?
It's interesting, because it's rarely about what a person HAS that adds up to their being boring; it's what they're MISSING. A person lacks personality because they are like a song without any hook or catchy riff.

You gotta have personality if you're going to get a woman interested in you.

A woman has to feel that static crackle around you, that you're not like the rest of the chumps with "LOOKING FOR SEX" tattooed on their foreheads.

She wants to see some spark, some glimmer of magical presence that you carry.

A woman walks through life fairly bored with her relationship possibilities. I have a theory that most men don't really challenge them at all. For you to make an impression, you just have to offer her something she doesn't usually get from the salad bar.

Can you excite her? Can you demonstrate a man with qualities that separates him from that pack of wild hyenas?

To snap her out of her stupor, what would you be willing to do? What if I told you that you don't have to do much to wake her up? You don't have to juggle, or dance, or perform acrobatics.

You've just got to stand out from the rest of the guys out there. You've got to be willing to display some PERSONALITY.

What makes up "personality"?

Mystery - The self-control to keep certain secrets and avoid telling her everything about you.
Humor - Make her laugh
Confidence - The willingness to be independent and not needy of a woman
Originality - Thinking different than the crowd
Excitement and Positivity - The great attitude and energy of a person with a purpose
Hobbies and interests - OTHER than women. This is what it means to "get a life."
Conversational Ability - The ability to communicate with women on a level they can understand and get excited aboutThere are other, subtler traits that could be talked about in boring detail, but these are the important aspects of projecting a winning personality to women.

If I were to boil it down to just two of these, I'd say humor and conversational ability are the foundation, and the others just serve as polish to make you gleam in her eyes.

If you can make her laugh - a real laugh that says she finds you witty and amusing, without putting yourself down - you will get her to open the door of opportunity for you.

If you can talk to her about that and everything else in between, without making her feel like you're trying to get her into bed, that you appreciate her as unique and special, you'll get to step inside that door of opportunity.

PERSONALITY SABOTAGE

Would you like to know what you're doing that sabotages this along the way?

There's one thing you do that undermines all this effort to get her attracted with your witty conversation, and you have to get rid of it to succeed long term.

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ....
Are you ready for this?

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ....
I'm not sure I should tell you this, but you need to know. It's important ...

The single behavior that shoots down more potential relationships and is completely under your control is ....
COMING ON TO A WOMAN TOO STRONG.

Now the funny part about me telling you that is that you can hear me tell you this, and you'll even nod your head and say, "Yeah, dude, I know..."

BUT YOU WON'T STOP DOING IT!

Why?

Why can't you stop yourself?

I got in a discussion with a female friend of mine the other day. She came in and told me that she was going to Boston and hoped things would go well on this business trip. She said she thought there was an 85% chance that she wouldn't get all stressed out. I asked her, "Well, what accounts for that other 15%?" She said, "Oh, that's stuff I can't control."

I waited for a beat, then I said, "How you feel and react is 100% under your control. It's whether you CHOOSE to or not. How you react is ALWAYS under your power. No one else makes you do anything."

She wanted to argue with me over whether her reaction was 100% under her "responsibility" rather than control, but I refused to back down. She was just trying to find a reason to excuse herself for not doing things she knew she needed to do. Responsibility is not the same as actually understanding that you are not under some other mystical power or influence. YOU are the one who does everything. By choice.

We could go into a whole circular debate over the nature of free will here, but I won't. You need to take both responsibility AND control of your actions. When you fail to do what you know you must do, there's a REASON. And until you find out what that REASON is, you'll probably never change your behavior.

So back to my original point - why do men come on strong to women?
(Since this is the one part of your personality that will sabotage all your work unless you can control it.)

It's because we're in a hurry. We lack the self-discipline to slow it down.

Men want quick affection, sex, and security with a woman. And then we want the space and relaxed distance.
Women want space and relaxed distance. THEN they want affection, sex, and a build-up of trust and security.

Do you see how this ruins your work?

If you come on too strong, she backs off. If you come on slow and easy (which also demonstrates confidence and self-control) she'll go along with you.

Can you see what you're doing wrong and correct it, without having someone tell you to your face what you may be doing to put them off?

Can you let go of what other people think of you and act based on your internal compass instead of their judgments?

And then can you exercise the self control you need to in order to stop coming on too strong to her? She won't date you or sleep with you just because you push her hard enough. She'll do it because her attraction mechanism inside her is turned on by your personality, and then feeling that she has the space to reach forward and act on her desires with you. She cannot do this if you're all over her like white on rice.

Learn the reasons why you can't stop yourself from doing what you know you should do. Learn what these mechanisms are inside you that keep you from doing the things you know you must, and then change them.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!" and "Alpha Immersion".

How to Meet Women With No Rejection
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Prejudice. What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too...
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Before I give up one of my secrets, I want to talk about a dirty word with you.

Well, it's not a cuss word, but it's dirty because no one wants to talk about it.

That word is: Prejudice.

What do you think of when you hear this word? For a lot of people it stirs up some anger and bad feelings. It used to do the same for me, too.

I grew up Italian and poor in a city in Upstate New York, near Buffalo. I used to catch a lot of grief for my nationality, but also because we had no money.

I remember distinctly one summer when I was working for the town. I had a few weeks left in the program to earn some money, and I was a po' little 15 year old kid. I just needed a few bucks to buy some stuff I needed for the school year.

I remember sitting in the office of the town recreation board supervisor. A big fat guy named Ron, if my memory serves. I sat there in his front lobby for a while to wait and see if I would get the job for a little longer that year.

Before my turn came to talk to Ron to find out, in walks big Vinny. No, that's no dumb mafia joke. Vinny was the son of a local business owner who had some clout in the area. Well, big Vinny and Big Daddy go into Ron's office, while I watch Ron slap Vinny's dad on the back like they were long-lost brothers. The door closes behind them and their laughter.

My heart sank.

Right then, I knew I didn't get the job. Vinny was all set, and Carlos was out in the cold.

I remember sitting there with that disappointed feeling in my gut, knowing that this little rich kid was going to screw me out of my few extra dollars for the summer. Money that daddy could have given him in a minute, but would take me a month to earn.

And now I wouldn't get it, and there wasn't a thing I could do about it. It was the good ol' boy's club, and I didn't meet their membership requirements.

Now, I could have gotten all mad about it, stomped my feet about it not being "fair," and all. It really wasn't even Vinnie's fault. He couldn't know.

But I remember having another realization. I thought that if Ron was stupid enough to hire a lazy dweeb like Vinny, then they can keep their lousy job.

Of course, that wasn't much consolation. Until I came up with another realization: I would WIN.

No matter how much the odds were stacked against me in life, I would prevail. I could have my dick kicked in the dirt, and I would get back up again.

So why am I telling you this? Yet another of Carlos' childhood stories... Well, it's because the unfair situation that I found myself in doesn't have to happen to you. Even if it comes up in another way.

You're a victim of women's prejudice, and you might not be aware of it. Just the same way I was as a kid, you are now. And it has nothing to do with your appearance or color of skin or even your income.

Let's break down the word a bit.

Pre-jud-ice.
Pre-judge.
To judge too soon.

Get this: It's been shown in some recent studies that we make snap decisions about people based on facial expressions and body language that takes place in less than the BLINK OF AN EYE. Literally.

I just finished this great book, "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell. It's a study of how the human brain makes all these complicated decisions without us even knowing about it.

In his book, he talks about these indicators and signals that we don't know we're seeing, but we're making judgments about other people based upon them.

Now something I want to add to this is that women are making them about YOU without you knowing about it.

Some of them will change if you take control of them, but a lot of them are tied DIRECTLY to your sense of self-esteem. You'll show them because they're impossible to control entirely.

Whoah. Think about that for a second. There are a bunch of things you can control about your appearance and so forth, but a lot of these behaviors are OUTSIDE your control. (Well, not completely, as I'll explain.)

I think this means that a lot of guys out there are treating the symptoms rather than the disease.

And that's exactly what you're doing if you are trying to learn a ton of new "tricks" and seduction/hypnosis tools without training yourself and working on your INNER game first. All those cool hypnotic words and "negging" techniques don't work right if you don't know how to properly communicate your Alpha value to a woman.

Sure, you can "peacock," but you have to have the right belief system to back it up or you'll come across as a dweeb in a top hat and eye-liner.

There's some good news here, though. You can learn how to override a woman's "Blink" response to you by bypassing it entirely.

That's right. When you demonstrate Alpha Male confidence, you are creating the persona (a REAL persona, not a fake) that will shut down or short circuit her subconscious attempts to shut you out of her life.

After all, on one hand, a woman wants love and affection and all that comes with it ...

... but on the other hand she also wants a trouble-free life. She has enough drama already, and she wants to avoid any possible heartache. So she creates a lot of fancy protection mechanisms to keep you from getting by without impressing her in the right way.

Just like a rock concert where you can't get past the big dudes guarding the band from groupies.

All you need is a backstage pass. That backstage pass is a concise method to approach women in any situation. To show, through your verbal power, that you are -

Confident

Secure

Interesting

Fun

For a long time, I had a problem talking with women. They just seemed like an alien life form to me. They liked makeup and sleepovers and pop songs about "girl power."

I felt like I had nothing in common with them.

But I finally figured out the amazing core elements of good conversation, and they work like a charm on just about everyone you'll meet. These elements can be learned and practiced with just about anyone, anywhere.

Here's one of them: Start with a contextual "opener."

What is a contextual opener? Well, it's one that obeys the rule of "Where the hell are you?"

In other words, if you want to walk up to that girl at the grocery store and say hello, don't ask her if she saw the fight out front. Don't tell her you want to read her palm. Those are club openers that would sound stupid in the Safeway meat section.

Instead, make sure the opener fits the situation. Not only will it work better, but you'll be much more believable with the words. It's a lot easier to talk about the real world around you than try to make up something dumb.

"Hey, have you tried that new high-quality roast beef they sell here? I'm planning a party and I want to know if it would be good to put on the platter."

There you go.

Does it make her toes tingle and her ni pples pop out? No. But it makes SENSE for where you ARE. And she'll be much more likely to respond.

Now, after she responds, chances are that she'll be a little overwhelmed by this unexpected interest and may be a bit bashful. (Guys often misinterpret a woman's shyness as disinterest.) This is where you have to reassure her and carry the conversation forward.

"Now if I'd known you weren't an expert on deli meats I would have asked someone else. But hey, you looked friendly." Shrug and say this with a slight smile. "Are you here doing some shopping after work?"

And just gently carry it forward...

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!" and "Alpha Immersion".

How to Ask a Girl for a Date
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It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)
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This has to be one of the questions I hear most frequently from guys.

Why?

It's the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman, and one that I get asked about regularly. It feels like such a risky proposition, putting yourself out there for a woman's approval (or rejection.)

The answer to the riddle is this: STOP asking women out!

First of all, you're starting a program in a woman's head that says: "He's romantically interested in me. That means dates, and awkward kisses, and possibly sex, and then a breakup like the last one. I better not."

Second, by asking her out, you make a woman need to figure out if she's attracted to you the moment you ask the question. She is presented with an opportunity which requires her to figure out her interest level in YOU.

You see, a woman doesn't want to lead a man on, but she also rarely knows right away if there's romantic interest. So she'll say yes just to test you out. It's like her first drive of a new car. She doesn't want to be obligated to buy right off the bat. If you push her for an answer right away (which is how asking her out comes across to her) she'll say No, even if she isn't sure yet.

Most women are NOT attracted to you immediately unless it's by your looks alone. If you rely on pure sex appeal to win you the one you want, you'll be relying on "luck." There's a much better way.

Don't move so fast on her. Be patient. (Oh, and another fringe benefit of not asking a woman out is that you can't be rejected. Pretty cool, huh?)

Take a moment and think about which of these would be most interesting to a woman:

A) A meal and/or movie date that demonstrates no originality, and implies that she'll have to be considering you romantically, and that there will be pressure for her to be "on," and then after it's all done, she'll have to deal with your attempt to kiss her. Scary.

A chance to go out and have some fun, with no pressure.

Which one sounds better to you?

Now, if you're still leaning towards Option A, think about which one sounds better to HER?

Does Option B sound better now? You better believe it does.

Now, it may not seem to have your interests in mind right away, but that's not what winning a girl's heart is about. It's about forgetting what YOU want for long enough so that you can give her what SHE wants.

Let's put it this way - would you invest $10,000 of your hard-earned money in a stock you'd never even heard of before? No way! You'd want to see what the company is about, check out the fundamentals. And THEN you might be willing to invest a few hundred or so.

That's what it looks like to her - potentially BIG risk, and no guarantee of return.

There's a saying: "You can have anything you want in this world if you just help enough other people get what they want."

Also, Option B gives her a little MYSTERY about your intentions and your interest, and that is what a woman wants. Remember: hope + doubt = passion.

So now that you've figured out that you need to give her a lower investment option to start out with, how do you do it exactly?

Easy. If you've only just met her on the street, you should see if she's got a minute for coffee or tea at the local coffee shop. Take the opportunity to build a little rapport and show her that you're FUN. The rest will come later if you can demonstrate a laid-back, fun personality.

If she doesn't have the time, you then shift into a lower gear and get her phone number and/or email address. After you put such a nice request out there for coffee and she turned you down, she's more likely to agree to give you her contact information, and in most cases she will write it right down.

If she hesitates, which is very likely because you're still essentially a stranger, then you need to reassure her by teasing her. That's right, teasing her.

HER: "Sorry, I don't give out my number." YOU: "It's okay, I'm only going to leave you a hundred messages on your machine. C'mon, write it down." Make her feel a little silly that she doubts your integrity and character. Teasing makes her forget about her weird trust issues.

Hand her a pen and paper and don't look her in the eye; just wait. The next person who speaks, loses.

Usually, she'll write it down. You have to be willing to wait out that long, uncomfortable silence while she figures out if you're a confident guy or a wimp. If you start talking and trying to reassure her of all the reasons she should feel okay about giving you her information, you've already lost.

Just act as if she could do nothing else, and she will do exactly what you want.

Once you have her contact information, you only need to get hold of her and invite her to complete the offer you originally made - tea or coffee at a certain local shop. It's a low-investment, and it's not too pushy or overtly "romantic" that she has to worry about where things have to go.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as Secrets of the Alpha Male, Approach Women - NOW! and Alpha Immersio.

You may or may not recognize that as the title of one of Motley
Crue's latest songs.

(I'm a relic of the heavy metal days when bands were rowdy and
trashed hotel rooms, so I had to grab their album...)

Well, I was listening to the lyrics to this song, and I thought that
this is the perception that some guys have of women when they don't
know how to handle her natural feminine force.

Oh, yeah. Just like Darth and Obi Wan, women have a very powerful
'force' all of their own.

It's their FEMININITY.

You know it.

You've felt it when they walk by you in those short-short jean
shorts and that thin little T-shirt that says: "Girls Rule" on it.

Just a moment of shared eye contact and you feel your solar plexus
tighten up like a drum...

Yowza...

Hit me with some more of THAT....!

Just sitting here and thinking about that kind of feeling makes me
smile, because it's something I've experience a thousand times, and
I know YOU have, too.

It's the best kind of feeling, but unfortunately, it does nothing
for our confidence and ability to manage the women in our life.

Let's be clear here...

The only chicks that = trouble are the ones that you LET run wild
in the playground of your life.

I'll admit that back when I didn't have a lot of ability to handle
the crazy crap that girls sometimes throw at you, I had a lot of
troubles. But I found out later that these same women could be as
tame as kittens when they were around men who knew their MASCULINE
power.

Oh, yeah. Just like Darth and Obi Wan, men have a more powerful
force all of our own.

It's our MASCULINITY.

For some people, that word has managed to sound almost negative
lately. Don't be fooled.

Being a man has never been more important.

So back to that song...

Do chicks really = trouble?

Only if you cannot be the leader - the Alpha Man - who knows how to
manage her energy with your own energy.

You ever been out at a bar and a group of women are together, and
one of them hears a song the DJ puts on, and she screams: "Ohmigod!
Ohmigod! I sooooo requested this! Come on, we have to go dance!"

And she promptly yanks your girl away from right in front of you to
go up on the dance floor...

Some guys call this "cockblocking," but it's really just girls
being girls.

And it's annoying as hell when it happens, isn't it? You feel
abandoned. Like the rug was just pulled out from under you.

You know what I do when this happens to me?

I just invite myself out with them on the dance floor, making sure
to keep my target in my sights, while still getting all funky and
dancing with the whole group.

AND I make sure that I'm having more fun than anybody in that group
in the process.

You see, most guys either go out on the dance floor against their
will, or they just follow-along to avoid being abandoned.

Or, they simply don't do ANYTHING. They wait around until the group
gets tired and comes back with their new drinks...

...and 3 new guys they met while bumping and grinding on the dance
floor.

Ah yes. Crazy times.

You see, in a bar or club, or just on the street corner, the person
who has the strongest reality will be the leader of the situation.
The person that's most convinced of their own value will rule.

That better be YOU, or the woman will simply never get very
attracted to you.

Think back to the guys you see leaving bars with chicks on their
arm...

Yup. They're the guys that are most in control of the situation,
leading the women, and having MORE fun than most of the people
they're with.

But if your headspace is filled with more concerns and worries than
it is with fun, chances are you won't do too well. You'll give off
the vibe of the "needy" guy, and women can pick up on this.

And that's why I'm here to tell you - once again - that chicks do
NOT equal trouble if you're the one in control of the situation.

Not being a dick and controlling things, but just knowing that no
matter what happens, you're the guy with the plan and the path to
fun.

The chorus in that Motley Crue song goes: "They'll kick you when
you're down in the ditch..."

Which is completely untrue.

IF you're a guy who can sniff out the drunk, obnoxious girls.

And keep your ass out of the ditch!

But let me put something to you...

Wouldn't it make sense to go find the QUALITY women that are out
there?

These are the classy gals that are all over the place, but they
don't really go to the bars or clubs.

She might be reading a magazine in the local bookstore...
She might be in front of you in the line at Starbucks...
She might be on her cell phone on a street corner...
She might be in the produce section of your grocery store...
She could be anywhere in the other 96% of your life that you don't
spend in bars.

And every time you see her, you just wished you knew what to say to
her to start a conversation with her...

Well now you can find out.

All you have to do is learn how to use your "Day Game."

This skill is called "Day Game," because you don't have to do be in a bar
or club at night to do it.

What it's really about is approaching women ANYTIME and ANYPLACE you want to meet women.

I believe this is the strongest strategy for meeting women because
it doesn't depend on special rules to get you into a conversation
with a woman.

And you see women all day long - everywhere you go...

Imagine if you could just walk up and meet any attractive woman you
see, and never have that feeling of tension and anxiety in your
gut...

No more "Approach Anxiety..."

What would that do for your confidence?

How many more dates would you have?

What would that do for your love life?

All I can tell you is that when guys see these skills put to use,
they are envious of the guys that have them.

THAT is what living the Alpha Lifestyle is about. Creating the
kind of life that other men would envy - and that other women
want to be a part of.

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Carlos Xuma is a well-known expert in the dating-seduction related field and an author of bestselling titles such as "Secrets of the Alpha Male", "Approach Women - NOW!" and "Alpha Immersion".

The Art Of Flirting - How To Flirt With Women
by Joseph Matthews

We will begin with a question.

Do you have a favorite woman, yet despite all your romantic efforts, you remain just friends?

Do you know the reason for this occurrence?

Chances are it is because you did not flirt correctly with the woman.

You should know that flirting is essential in the attraction process. If you do not do it at all or do it wrong, you may blow your chances with a woman.

Why is flirting essential?

This is simple flirting creates sexual tension.

When there is no sexual tension within your interactions, there will be no attraction. When you do not have attraction, this places you in a different category.

That is correct - you're a friend!

So when you know the proper way to flirt with a girl, your chances of attracting her go up exponentially.

Flirting is a lot of fun and not so much a secret as some might consider, however when done incorrectly it will not work.

The art of flirting with women is all about communicating your romantic interest in the woman rather than just letting the cat out of the bag.

These are mixed signals.

Your actions are communicating one thing, but your words are saying something completely different.

Some of the more common mistakes of flirting with women that men make may include:

MISTAKE #1: Being Too Obvious

Many men are caught up in the excitement of being attracted to a woman, and then they say exactly what they feel. They do not realize that this type of information presentation forces the woman to decide how she may feel about him.

And if you haven't laid the proper groundwork beforehand, chances are the girl is going to reject you.

MISTAKE #2: Not Being Obvious Enough!

On the flip side of that coin are the guys who communicate NO INTEREST AT ALL, yet in their minds they think that the girl should know how they are feeling. Then, when they make their move, the girl is surprised because up to this point, she had no idea the guy was interested in her!

MISTAKE #3: Relying On Words Rather Than Actions

A great deal of flirting has to do with what you say, but the more powerful techniques are NON-VERBAL body language stuff. Little things like an eyebrow raise, a head tilt, or a wicked smile can give new meaning to an otherwise benign remark.

MISTAKE #4: They Take Things Too Seriously

Flirting, when done right, is light and fun. When guys try and make flirting more serious romantic gestures, the tension begins to break down.

You are doing something wrong when you or the woman is not having fun while you flirt.

We could list more mistakes; however, this should provide you with a clear picture. Do you wonder what the right way to begin flirting is?

Use as many sexual overtones as possible, this is a good way to flirt, however, you must keep it subtle.

So for instance, if you're at a bar, and the girl you're with orders a drink and then turns to you and asks if you'd like something, you could jokingly say - "You're not trying to get me drunk so you can take advantage of me, are you?" (Of course, this is said with a wink and a nod.)

This communicates your interest, it's insinuating sex, but you're not coming outright and saying it. It's implied, and it's fun, and its light hearted.

On the other hand, when a woman says something temptingly naughty to you, you might say to her, Stop trying to seduce me, you minx! You know I don't do that on the first date.

Do you understand how all this works?

Then, as you begin to flirt more and more, you can start getting a little more obvious about your interests, while never really crossing that line.

As you do this, you'll begin to notice how the attraction between you and the girl starts to build and build. And before you know it, that harmless flirting becomes an outright SEDUCTION.

And that is when the real fun begins.

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How To Date Women - Dating Secrets For Men
by Joseph Matthews

When you consider dating a woman, more than likely you consider dinner and a movie, right?

Going out and doing things with a woman while you get to know one another is dating.

Consider for a moment that this is a misconception about dating.

See, most guys use the concept of "going out" with a girl to mean that there is some romantic ulterior motive there, and that is not always the case.

Let's go over some of the most common mistakes guys make when "dating" a girl...

Mistake #1: Guys use dates as opportunities to "Impress" women.

Lots of guys think they have something to prove on dates. They "have to get her to like me!" So they'll try and take her to fancy places to show her a memorable time, and they'll try and brag about themselves to come off as important.

Mistake #2: Buying your way into the heart of a woman.

This is not true and is a very bad idea, since many women are not concerned about the amount of money you spend on a date. There is no amount of money or any expensive item you can buy that will get a woman interested in you if there is no mutual attraction.

Mistake #3: Activities are a pointless waste of time!

Just the sheer act of going out to places with somebody doesn't mean as much as you think it does. If you do the typical "dinner and a movie" thing, that won't necessarily get the girl to like you. Spending time together does not always equate to romantic interest.

Mistake #4: Men become boring!

A date with no spark of chemistry is boring. Although many men become nervous while on dates, they often interrupt themselves by becoming boring. They often talk about their routines while displaying little to none of their distinct personality. This is going through the motions with hopes of not messing things up.

Mistake #5: Guys follow a pattern of failure.

Some men think dates should go a certain way, they have their own ideas of how things are suppose to turn out, they then follow the same strict pattern of failure. They always go to the same places, while asking their dates the same questions they have asked all the other women they have dated. There is no fun or natural impulses offered into their interactions.

So what does it mean to date a woman?

The answer is simple; dating is a means of encouraging and building comfort, attraction and emotional connections.

Where you go and the amounts of money you spend are not important, what is important is your ability to connect with the woman you are dating and positively encouraging the way she feels about you.

You will notice that this is the major factor in the difference of going on cheap dates while truly romancing a woman and that of spending a great deal of money and getting nowhere fast.

You should completely focus on how you can increase your emotional connection with the woman you date.

You should be open to talking about your shared passions and interests, while trying to figure out what her hopes and dreams may be.

Take care to keep away from boring questions that involve work rather you might consider rephrasing your questions while adding interesting fun while on a date. As an example, you may ask her, If you were not held back by the laws of time and space and could do anything, what would you do.

Above all, you should just have fun and enjoy yourself!

You might want to tell her a joke, even if it is not the best, just so you can both enjoy a good chuckle. Take care to guide the conversation towards the things she finds interesting, this helps you find out who she is. Be curious.

But most importantly, don't shy away from sex!

Too many guys are afraid to even broach the topic of sex while on a date. But you have to build the sexual tension to intensify the attraction.

Relax and be a bit wicked by flirting and joking with your date about romance women enjoy this as well. Therefore, if you do not, you have no means of building the attraction of the woman you date onto a higher level.

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Love and sex are among the things that make our lives better and increase our pleasure to live. But every good thing has a less pleasurable side and one must admit that a lot of stress is associated with these delightful activities. The first touch, the first kiss, the first evening out, the first night spent together, all these key moments of the early part of a relationship can be very stressful for both partners. Some people think that these moments can make or break relationships, but the issue is still up for debate.

Not everybody gets it right the first time and many first nights spent together are not that great. It takes time to learn what the other likes, wants and looks for in and out of bed, so there are bound to be a lot of early fumbles and mistakes. On the plus side, these awkward moments may end up as sweet memories two lovers can laugh about years later. Still, a mistake is a mistake and the fewer one does, the better off everybody is.

Since you both are most likely to be nervous the first time, make sure you set the stage for this event. When you feel you are both comfortable with each other and that your relationship has advanced enough to warrant a more intimate approach, make a plan for the setting of the first kiss. Choose a location you are familiar with and whose main feature is intimacy.

There is also an ungodly amount of hype surrounding first kisses. The two partners should, allegedly, hear bells ringing or feel like having a thousand butterflies in their stomachs and other such nonsense. Don’t let such ideas put you off if the first kiss was not followed by a huge display of fireworks. Cherish it as the first step toward what may prove to be a special relationship and move forward. In other words, kiss her because you both feel like it, not because it’s some sort of ritual, and do it at your own pace and in your own style.

If you are not certain of what she wants or likes, then don’t rush into a French kiss. Brush your lips gently against hers, look into her eyes for the confirmation and then come back for a second try with a more resolute approach. If she does not recoil, then you can be a bit more firm. But the gentle brushing is a very good idea for the first kiss. It will net you points for both control and tenderness.

Unless you are the type who jumps head first into anything and just hopes for the best, you may want to actually take a moment and think about this before doing anything. A lonely bench in the park at sunset is a good idea. The doorstep of her parents’ house is not. Don’t make a hasty affair of the first kiss because your girlfriend is very likely to remember this for a long time after wards. Pick a quiet spot, where nobody is going to bustle in on you just as you’re getting ready to share a pleasant moment. Make sure your hygiene is fit for this occasion: no bad breath, no smelly body.

No fancy stuff on the first kiss. There’ll be time enough for this later on. Don’t spoil the moment by trying something really special and making a mess of it. Stick to a slow and gentle kiss that paves the way for the more advanced stuff to come. Just focus on sliding into each other’s arms, finding a comfortable position and kissing away to heart’s content. If you can pull this off without a hitch, then you can say your first kiss with that partner was a complete success.

find that all that talk makes you want to masturbate. You can tell your fantasy in a present tense as if you were describing something that was happening at that minute. "I am taking off your bra. Your nipples stand up as I suck on them". That way, your partner can take over from time to time "It feels wonderful when you suck on them. Don't stop".

By sharing your fantasies on the phone, you can weave amazing fantasies that include things you would have trouble doing in person, or that you wouldn't really want to do but like the idea of. Also if you or your girlfriend have fantasies about being other people - a pirate and his captive maiden or a rich woman and the gardener - it's sometimes easier to do it on the phone. You and your wife or girlfriend can also weave fantasies from which you can take your next encounter together. You can learn a little more about what each of you like and dislike sexually, and which are the best parts, and next time you can do those more. This is also a wonderful way to spend your nights when you're out of town. A romantic phone call to say "I miss you" can become an amazing sexual encounter that will keep both of you tingling all the next day.

If your lover is unsure, but is open to listening, the first time you try this she may mostly listen. If you feel awkward, you can start slow with things that you like about her, and what your favourite things are that she does to you. This won't take as much creative thought, and won't feel as risky as telling a deep-seated fantasy. Or you can talk about the first time you had sex together. What it felt like, how good it was. Once again, this is not as sexual as you would probably like to get, but starting slow might be more comfortable.

Phone sex with your partner can give whole new dimensions to your sexual feelings for each other, and make being apart a lot more fun.

First there is the domination. We all have seen those WWII clips of them men coming back from battle and kissing their wives. This is a kiss with some power behind it. It can say many things.

A kiss like this will knock her off of her feet. Maybe you might use this kiss if you haven't seen her for awhile. You might use this kiss if you are very horny and can't contain yourself any more. We all have had those strong moments where we feel like we have to kiss someone. We need an outlet for all the sexual frustration that we are feeling. The great thing about a kiss is, it is easy and fast too do. You can get your sexual frustration out without having to take off your clothes. The element of surprise is what makes a woman the wettest. This isn't a kissing technique per se, but you will get the drift.

While you are kissing her, roam her body with your hands. Explore every area that you can. This will make her go crazy before you can even begin to think about what your next move is. I can't tell you enough how important this is. Before you give your woman a kiss, make sure your breath smells okay. Don't go kissing her if you just ate a tuna on rye sandwich. If you are in doubt, go brush your teeth. You don't like it when she has shit stuck in her teeth that fall into your mouth.

Lets talk more about kissing and not the do's and don'ts. The explore kiss. This is where you spend some time getting to know her mouth. This is a fun one from time to time. It shows that you are interested in her. You are learning new ways to excite her. This can be good for both of you. Good for you because you will learn new things that turn her on. Great for her because she will think all this time you are spending on her is great.

The peck before bed. You know you aren't getting laid when you get that little peck before she rolls over in her flannel night gown. It doesn't have to be such a little innocent kiss. Instead, look into her eyes when she gives you that little peck. Run your fingers through her hair and tell her that you love her. This will give her sweet dreams all night long.

Just like the peck before bed, turn that peck before you leave for work into something special. Tell her that you will be thinking about her all day long while at work. Look her in the eyes and smile when you say it. This will keep her waiting for when you get home. You can also use kisses to see where she is at sexually. If you are turned on but you are not sure if she is, kiss her and find out. Give her a long slow kiss, if she comes back wanting more, than you know you are going to score in the sack. If on the other hand after you are done she is talking about he bills you owe that month, you aren't getting laid tonight.

You may not know it, but a kiss holds a lot of power to a woman. With the right kiss you can make her go from undecided to a horny vixen when it comes to sex. If you aren't sure that you will get laid, a kiss is a good way to test the waters. A kiss can also be a way to show affection. If you just want to show that you love her and are thinking about her, a great way to show it is a little peck. This will make her feel warm and fuzzy inside and know that you care.

Kissing shows interest. It maybe sexual or just love, but it does it all the same. Your woman will respond to this the same way time and time again. She will be happy to feel your lips on hers. Don't forget, you can never get too many kisses in your lifetime.

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Making a great first impression is everything on the first few dates. And there's no doubt that fun, creative and unique date ideas really help boost your points in the eyes of women. And if you’ve been together for years, dates help re-spark some life back into your relationship. But finding creative date ideas is the hard part!

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So does Michael Webb's 300 Creative Dates book deliver on its promise as having creative, unique and fun dates?

Yes and no. Let me explain.

While there are 300 ideas in this book, you probably already guessed that you might not like or want to use all 300 of them. While many of the ideas are very creative, others are only a good reminder of places that everyone knows about but they either forgot or never realized that they’re such ideal places for a date.

Thankfully the, "I would-have-NEVER-thought-of-that-in-a-million-years!" ideas DO outweigh the date idea refreshers.

This book will make you smile, laugh and inspire you to always find the adventure in whatever it is you're doing.

It also has 'dating coupons' you can give to your partner to redeem at a later date. Three examples are: "Redeem this for a fruit-picking day at an orchard or berry patch, a one-hour bike ride or an evening at a nearby drive-in theatre.” Plus some you can use yourself.

Also, the book has a great section on dating disaster stories that will definitely show the guys what NEVER to do on dates.

So is the book perfect?

No. While there are 300 ideas, you really can't read more than 50-60 in one sitting before it gets tedious, and some descriptions are a little lengthy. However, pages 93-94 do have a nice list of bullets with 'quick and to the point' date ideas ready. No elaboration. If you're in the need of a date idea fast, then you'll love these pages. All in all, this is still a fantastic book that everyone should read!

Whether you want to impress that special someone on a first date, surprise them for a special anniversary or occasion, or just want to breathe new life into your relationship because it's getting a little on the bland side, then grab this book now.

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The at-your-fingertips availability for almost anything afforded by computers, even “meeting” new people, can be both a blessing and a curse at the same time. With computers fast becoming a staple business machine in the home and school office, millions upon millions of people the world over “cross each other’s path” while surfing the net, every day.

Busy legitimate singles with limited time can readily meet other singles with similar interests for friendship, dating, or commitment purposes while online. By the same token, insincere people, both male and female, easily prey on others who allow naivety to overrule common sense.

Online dating can be fun. Mr. or Ms. Right really can be found online via web site dating services, chat rooms, and other sites that help “connect” people one to another. That’s how I met my husband and best friend of eight years. So my intent is not to discredit the plausibility of Internet romance. It can be found!

I would, however like to offer sound advice on ways to keep you safe from the fraudulent few who surf the net looking for whom they can devour!

First and foremost, protect yourself by guarding personal information: your telephone number, address, the city in which you live, whether or not you live alone, where you work, where you bank, your income, etc.

As in the real world, be prudent about who you trust with private information. Common sense screams that protecting your privacy in the virtual world of the net is even more important, since you have no way of knowing who the person on the other end really is.

When you seek online dating from an Internet web site source, follow the guidelines about which type of things not to share with others about yourself while at that site. These sites have such guidelines for your safety.

In particular, things such as your name, telephone number, address, and where you work should be offered only to those individuals you are sure you can trust. Make that person earn your trust over a period of time. But even then, exercise caution and good judgment.

Stop communications with anyone who pressures you for personal information, tries to trick information out of you, or who mocks or makes fun of you for being so cautious.
They are only attempting to manipulate you into disclosing the information they want. Reputable contacts will understand and appreciate your caution – especially if you are female dealing with a male.

Share with other family members and friends those Internet contacts you are involved in for extended friendship or for future dating or relationship purposes. Also let the person with whom you are corresponding know that your friends and family are aware of them. Not only will this help weed out the “insinceres,” but it could help insure your safety, as well.

Be responsible about romance; don’t fall in love at the click of the mouse or the drop of a few flattering phrases. True intimacy and romance develop over time. Avoid the slick romantic types who whisk you away to a private chat room after just “meeting” you, to try and involve you in sexy suggestive exchanges. You can be sure you are but one of many “loves” picked for a quick, cheap thrill and that nothing long term serious will ever develop. Drop the rat before they have a chance to rattle your cage.

Be suspicious of photos offered by someone you just met, especially if they make the sender look like he or she just stepped out of a GQ or Cosmopolitan magazine, or if they are sitting behind the wheel of a brand new fireball red Lamborghini. If you fall in love, make sure it’s with that person – not a pretty face that might not belong to them, or the non existent bank account they’re always bragging about.

For all you know, in real life “Tom” is twice your age, has a rash on his beer gut, and was gumming his way through a bag of bargain-brand cheese puffs when he sent you the photo! Be smart; don’t let cupid’s arrow pierce your brain instead of your heart.

If you are a female, when you do get to the point of sharing phone numbers, request that he share his first, and you call him. Be sure and use local telephone blocking techniques to prevent your telephone number from showing up on Caller ID when you make your call.

You can learn a lot about a person by the tone of their voice and voice inflections while talking. How are their communication and social skills? How readily do they respond to questions you ask on the spot: did they answer quickly and casually, or hem and haw, and stutter? Do they seem overly nervous?

Do they repeatedly try and switch the conversation back to you whenever you ask questions about them? Do they only want to provide you with their cellular number and not their home telephone number (which could suggest they are either married or already involved in a relationship)?

Pay close attention to any possible “red flags” that might signal your budding relationship is with a bozo, or worse. More than one nightmare stalking situation has resulted from “quickie” online romances.

Make use of all the features on the online dating web site that aid in critiquing contacts; nearly all have bio pages on all members. Many have live video chat rooms. If you’ve any specific questions, suggestions, or concerns you can contact the site’s host or moderator.

When and if you are ready to move past the messaging, chat room, personal e-mailing, and talking on the phone stages in the relationship, continue to use caution. Meet in a public place as opposed to giving out your address or having them pick you up. If you are a female, be sure and have a cellular phone in your purse in case you need it.

Let close friends and family members know your date’s name, telephone number, exactly where you will be that night, and when you expect to be home. Better yet if you are a female, have a few friends “just happen by” the same place the two of you meet. This warns him that your personal acquaintances have seen him, and could deter any planned funky business.

Common sense and slow and easy is the name of the game when it comes to Online dating. This recipe will help insure sweet smelling – not rotten – romancing. Now, go and have fun!

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